This school is small. The teens bring their own lunches. What is in them? One kid only eats yogurt. Another pretzels and apples. Another the mom packs lunch and hopes that the kid will eat. Mine - well, I am fortunate. We don't have the food aversion issue. His is more like 2 TBS of mayo on a meat sandwich or a 1/2 tsp of peanut butter on a small stick of celery or lemon water and potato chips...but he'll eat other things. I can also relate to these parents from another child I have who has severe allergies and a sensory disorder. Lunch time, indeed meal time, can be tricky. If not downright distressing.
We all mentioned being thankful to be in a school that gets the challenges many Asperger's children face regarding food. All have faced other schools not being accommodating and even threatening when the children arrived with "less than satisfactory" lunches. I even had a para call social services because my son decided for several weeks to go to school with smoked salmon wrapped in seaweed and an apple. She said we weren't feeding him sufficiently and that she was concerned about his diet. I found myself looking around at the Lunchables and sweets the other kids had and shaking my head at her assessment. Need-less-to-say, social services investigated the situation and dropped the case within 5 minutes of being in our home. The impact of her judgment and that of others left its mark.
The conversation at the school mixed with experiences has me thinking. All these parents, myself included, are resigned to their children's food aversions and peculiarities. It is not possible or good to force them to eat. The parents have all offered and created a wide variety of foods for their children to try. When the food was not what their child was prepared to consume, their efforts were met with dramatic outbursts and the food was still not eaten. I wonder, then, how does one help a child with food aversions and disabilities be able to have a more healthy and balance diet? Or is the resignation to the situation just what must be?