so life has taken some interesting bumps along the way. My kids basically can eat only fruits, vegetables and meat. beans were taken out as were nuts and many other vegetarian sources for protein. Yes there is the thought that one can get enough protein from veggies but i am not sure i am ready to bank my kids health on that. My own personal i know what i am feeling experiencing so it is easy to adjust or adapt if things dont feel quite right or try to really listen in and see what it is my body is wanting. obviously i can't do that when it comes to somebody else.
A friend and student tonight was talking to me about food. she has been vegan for a year, she tried raw vegan 8/1/1 for a while. she felt good but decided to go back to vegan. But i guess the thing that struck me in what she said is that she knows a lot of people that are healthy that proscribe to different diets and the key seems to be that they are content with what they are doing. Is that really it? happiness in what you are eating and not obsessing over it. I realize in mine and my copartner in this site our situations are a little different as we have many food sensitivities in our family. It was definitely food for thought.
Over the fall Holidays our rabbi was talking about vegetarianism and factory farming and the cruelty that happens within this system even with the kosher animals. He decided to become a vegetarian. kudos to him! he was talking about things that were near to my own heart. Trying to support the local farming community, trying to really be questioning where our food comes from and how it got to us. It is not just something that we buy from the store. That many many many of the animals are treated so badly. it is not ethical and it is not right. I still agree with that as well.
It is hard sitting on the fence and not knowing which way to jump. I have located a source for some pretty local and ethically raised kosher beef. I am just waiting to try to buy some well until i have some money. If i am going to buy beef i would like to at least know the cows had a good life. That they were free to roam on pastures not stuck in horrid pens. And that when it came time to slaugther it was done with respect and love and not in a harsh and cruel manner.
Sometimes it is tough and expensive to have a conscience and to do the right thing. My kids have to eat only organic. They can't have any processed foods. which is really better for them anyway, so mind you i am not complaining i am just stating how it is. Our grocery bill is around $1400 to $1500 a month and this is BEFORE i made some life changing decisions. Now it may go up even more. I spend $550 a month in supplements for my 2 bio kids. This is because my ex will NOT follow drs orders and keeps feeding them things they are not allowed. It is like the nightmare that will not end there. So they have to be on lots of supplements. Someday I hope this will change.
Anyway, i decided to allow my children to choose their own path. If they desire to eat meat i am going to let them. I will still teach them about the values of vegetarianism and veganism and then hopefully as they get older well they will do what is best for them. This was truly a hard place to come to. I ahve been vegan for 20 years. But as i said i did it for health reasons. I have never been dogmatic about just sticking to something and not being willing to look at what is best. I believe that this is what is best for right now. My kids diet is so incredibly limited. Even some fruits and veggies are limited. That i need to let them choose to eat that if they want. Of course, i ONLY offer things that are on their yes list as far as being things that will not make them sick. But that is a hard place. a place to just realize that i have to let go right now and change course. thought it may also just be for a season. prior to my divorce my kids were NEVER sick they only went to the dr for annual check ups and that is IT. post divorce and dear dad getting his hand into their diet well things changed. As dear dad is a consumer of processed junk. And also keeps pushing grains on my kids even though the drs have said NO in about a gazillion ways. It doesn't matter to him. He has his mind stuck in the fact that HE IS RIGHT and the drs are wrong and they dont know anything. Only he my ex knows anything. Well my children now have severe colitis and extreme candida and eczema. Yes they get to pay the price for their dear dads stubborness and selfishness. However i can't change this. I can't change him. So we do the best we can with what tools we have.
So what does a typical day now look like for my kids well here is what they had one of the days last week:
salad and olive oil
carrot apple celery juice (fresh)
carrot and apple juice
homemade bar or desert that they are allowed
maybe a smoothie
fruit or seaweed
nut butter (that they are allowed)
large salad with olive oil
beef or fish or chicken
broth or veggie soup
more fruit or seaweed
They eat nearly non stop. They eat a lot. But they eat healthy. So even with the addition of meat i still feel like they are getting an overall good diet. will see what happens with it over the next year.
i have decided this is just one thing i have to let go of and just try it out and see what impact it has on my kids. They also need to be able to have a choice. I can't control this avenue anymore. I can only make sure the choices they have are within the realm of things that are acceptable foods for them and are healthy. They have enough areas of difference with their peers that i would like to decomplicate their life a bit.
So have been trying this out for the last month. i will probably do it throughout this year and just see how it fits. if i dont like it OR the kids choose otherwise we can always change course. right?
as for me, what am i doing for myself. well my diet is also extremely limited right now. So i am staying vegetarian. I am allowing myself duck eggs and that is it. I tried one night to eat beef. I didn't like it. It made me feel weighted down and well blah. I didn't feel like it was the right thing for my body. But i tried it. The duck eggs i think i am developing a reaction to those also. I am allergic to all fish and turkey and chicken eggs. I think the ducks eggs are also becoming problematic as i notice problems after eating them so well they may have to go. When life calms down some well then i will take some time to take care of me. UNTIL THEN..... at least my babies are all getting what they need.
For any vegetarian of vegan readers out there, i just want to state that in my heart i believe a vegan diet CAN BE everything the child needs. As stated, my kids were SO healthy and bright for the first 5 1/2 and 3 years of their life when I WAS their sole food provider and they were getting livign and nourishing foods. When their dad got his hand in there and started giving them processed foods, sugar and garbage and grains that they were not supposed to have things changed and their gut flora changed as a result and now they have problems with foods that before were good for them. i hope to restore them back to health and as said we will see where we go with the diet then. I do believe and KNOW that vegetarian and vegan children CAN be healthy when the parents are conscientious of what they are feeding their kids as with any kid (even an omnivore). So this is not any way conceding that a vegetarian diet is not meant for kids as i dont agree with that at all! it is just for a season we (my family) needs to personally switch gears due to circumstances of life.
Believe me it was hard and i have cried tears about this. But for right now i think